How to control our worries

If you let your worries and anxiety take over they can really ruin your entire day as well as your life, if you ask me. Even now, I’m worried about how this article it’s going to turn out. In my case, if I let my mind to dominate me, I would start with questions like: Is this going to be helpful for someone? Am I going to write something that it will be really worth reading?, or even harsher expressions like – C’mon Carolina! Who is going to read this? Do you really think that you have what it takes to motivate people positively? And I would go on and on until this self-sabotage ends up hurting me deep inside.

One thing that’s clear is that you need to take control of your life, but at the same time it makes you feel guilty when you leave aside worrying thoughts for a while, almost like if you were forgetting its importance. You might also blame yourself for procrastinating when you know the opportunity is there to solve it.

Then, how to control our worries? I think it is all just a matter of determination. It’s very difficult to just stop worrying about something, specially if you are a constant worrier and you get anxious about every single little thing you need to solve. Maybe you cannot stop worrying, but you can try to control it.

Here is a quote from the film ‘Gone with the wind’, based on the novel by Margaret Mitchell, that I always keep in mind and I repeat it often when I need it to. Ms Scarlett O’Hara says: “I can’t let him go. I can’t. There must be some way to get him back. Oh, I can’t think about this now! I’ll go crazy if I do! I’ll think about it tomorrow. But I must think about it. I must think about it. What is there to do? What is there that matters? Tara! Home. I’ll go home. And I’ll think of some way to get him back. After all… Tomorrow is another day!”

Miss O’Hara is not procrastinating, but she is determined to think about her trouble and solve it, with the firm belief that everything is going to turn out positively.

Find a time during the day that you will only dedicate to think about your problems and commit to find a solution for them. When you know it’s all just a matter of time, stop dwelling on the same thought and move on to the next problem on your list.

Something you should not overlook is knowing that when you worry too much, you are creating another problem. Meaning that you are allowing more negative thoughts to stress you out, which could prevent you from finishing your work or daily tasks.

“When it rains, it pours!” Right?! In this case, another motivational phrase that I use and I recommend you to keep in mind when you feel overwhelmed by many troubles at the same time is: “One thing at a time!” Prioritize and only focus on what it needs your full attention at the present moment. What should be important to you is NOW. To make it easy for you, be aware of what’s happening right this minute and think: does your problem belong to the past, the present, or the future?

Stop imagining the worst. After all, the thoughts we create from our worries are only speculations, they are not exactly the truth. Either if we believe it is possible or impossible for us to solve anything, then it will be.

Don’t delegate! When you know you can do it yourself, do it so. There’s nothing that will make you worry more than delegating something important to another person just for the lack of courage. Save yourself the pain of having to suffer double when you ask someone to do things for you and they turn out wrong. No one can do it better than yourself!

No doubt that when we are anxious and worried we are feeding our fears. Do not let them grow to control your life, but instead try to face them by making a habit of thinking on your favor with positivism.

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